"Pain, of course, can find its way into the experience of love from many directions, and we face the possibility of pain in any serious human relationship. In fact, striving to love while refusing to take the risk of being hurt is an exercise in futility. If love consists in living for others, it necessarily involves a lowering of our self-defense, and in the vulnerability that ensues, we face the possibility of pain. Love knows no other way" -- In Pursuit of Love